My husband is 31 years old, I am 28 years old, my husband's salary is seven million dong and I'm six million dong; Life is simple, thinking just having each other is enough.
Life is not so simple, accommodation, meals, husband and wife expenses ... not every month the two of them have any extra money. I remember, on March 8 of that year, my husband bought me a watch with more than four million dong because I was not given gifts on many holidays. I was angry with my husband for a week because that money was equal to our monthly food. After I got married, I became pregnant, I was only 23 years old then, just graduated from school for a year, the job was not stable. My husband graduated two years before me, his major is longer.
At that time, the two were very confused but determined to stick to the city until the end. I think it's as simple as this, we all graduated from university, have good health, youth, and qualifications, we will strive together to go up, not back down, if anyone can do it, we can also do it, "if you want to, find it. way, don't want to find excuses". In that context, I agreed to let my husband go on a cruise (he is a sailor), then I was five months pregnant. Being away from my husband when pregnant is also very sad, but if we want a better future, we have to make a trade-off. The husband left for 10 months, when he returned, the child was about six months old, bringing back more than 200 million VND of capital. We borrowed more than 500 million dong to buy an old apartment of 48 m2 in the suburbs of Hanoi, at least we had a small and clean nest for our children.
>> Couples with large assets can't keep their happiness
Buying a house is also the time when I go back to work, asking my grandmother and grandmother to take care of the children. I went to work, my husband continued to take the train. During the next three years, my wife and I plowed and hoe, and I also received an overtime job. At that time, when I was a child, I kept tricking her to sleep and then I woke up and turned on the computer to work, she cried back to bed to comfort her, one night I did not know how many times I worked while lying down to comfort my child and then got up to work again. For three years we didn't travel, didn't eat at restaurants, didn't shop much, even limited our coffee and milk tea trips. All expenditures of husband and wife are focused on children and helping parents on both sides.
Then the Covid epidemic hit, I remember feeling bewildered at that time, not knowing whether to stay in the capital or return to the countryside when there was an elderly mother and small children when the car stopped working, isolated, and blocked. I am very strong in life without my husband by my side, but during the epidemic, I became bewildered. On the same boat as my husband, there was a brother, his parents lost the right Covid so they could not fly home. After that trip, the husband and wife decided that the husband would not go to work far away, partly because he had paid off most of the debt (only the family's debt was left), partly because the children were grown up and needed their father by their side.
It can be said that the three years when my husband went to the beach, it was also the time when I was pregnant, gave birth, and took care of my challenging baby. Looking back, without that trade-off, we wouldn't be where we are today. I am grateful that my efforts have paid off. My husband's return to shore means that his income is significantly reduced, and my family saves by increasing income and reducing spending. The couple's income is always accompanied by external payments, never just from salary. We all received additional jobs outside, after many years of working experience increased, so the salary also increased. Our total income is stable, we have been able to buy an old car for easy travel and return to our hometown. After paying off the old debt, the couple sold the apartment they were living in to move to a new, larger and larger apartment.
>> My wife and I are happy without having children
Looking back after five years of trying, we are satisfied with what we have and plan to have a second baby, accumulate to buy a second property. There is a saying: "Going from zero to number one is the hardest because it doesn't multiply much to zero, but when it goes to one, it will grow very quickly because the number of one multiplied by any number will be the same number". The lesson I learned is:
One: If you can't buy a house in the inner city, you can move to the suburbs, the suburbs are now developed, there are many companies and industrial zones, there is no shortage of job opportunities. If you can't buy land, buy an apartment, if you can't build a new house, buy an old house... Like my house, I bought an old apartment, but I'm quite satisfied because the previous owner has repainted the whole house and repaired the interior. , almost just to stay.
Two: The spending lesson is always to increase income and decrease spending. There are many ways to increase non-wage income such as: overtime, overtime, getting an outside job, selling outside, doing a second job... Reducing spending is reducing toy purchases, Clothes for children, cosmetics, things for parents to buy only enough to use, food also buy a variety but just enough or not too much, limit coffee, milk tea, restaurants...
Three: Probably the most important thing: "Consent to husband and wife" and do not compare with others. Always try and trust each other will overcome all difficulties.
There are many people who will say, my family is lucky because my husband's job is on the train, so I have the opportunity to earn a high income. Yes, it was my wife's luck. In the most difficult circumstances, we have a job to increase income, but it is also a job that has a lot of trade-offs. When returning home, my husband also had to start from scratch with a job on the shore not in the right field.
Life is not so simple, accommodation, meals, husband and wife expenses ... not every month the two of them have any extra money. I remember, on March 8 of that year, my husband bought me a watch with more than four million dong because I was not given gifts on many holidays. I was angry with my husband for a week because that money was equal to our monthly food. After I got married, I became pregnant, I was only 23 years old then, just graduated from school for a year, the job was not stable. My husband graduated two years before me, his major is longer.
At that time, the two were very confused but determined to stick to the city until the end. I think it's as simple as this, we all graduated from university, have good health, youth, and qualifications, we will strive together to go up, not back down, if anyone can do it, we can also do it, "if you want to, find it. way, don't want to find excuses". In that context, I agreed to let my husband go on a cruise (he is a sailor), then I was five months pregnant. Being away from my husband when pregnant is also very sad, but if we want a better future, we have to make a trade-off. The husband left for 10 months, when he returned, the child was about six months old, bringing back more than 200 million VND of capital. We borrowed more than 500 million dong to buy an old apartment of 48 m2 in the suburbs of Hanoi, at least we had a small and clean nest for our children.
>> Couples with large assets can't keep their happiness
Buying a house is also the time when I go back to work, asking my grandmother and grandmother to take care of the children. I went to work, my husband continued to take the train. During the next three years, my wife and I plowed and hoe, and I also received an overtime job. At that time, when I was a child, I kept tricking her to sleep and then I woke up and turned on the computer to work, she cried back to bed to comfort her, one night I did not know how many times I worked while lying down to comfort my child and then got up to work again. For three years we didn't travel, didn't eat at restaurants, didn't shop much, even limited our coffee and milk tea trips. All expenditures of husband and wife are focused on children and helping parents on both sides.
Then the Covid epidemic hit, I remember feeling bewildered at that time, not knowing whether to stay in the capital or return to the countryside when there was an elderly mother and small children when the car stopped working, isolated, and blocked. I am very strong in life without my husband by my side, but during the epidemic, I became bewildered. On the same boat as my husband, there was a brother, his parents lost the right Covid so they could not fly home. After that trip, the husband and wife decided that the husband would not go to work far away, partly because he had paid off most of the debt (only the family's debt was left), partly because the children were grown up and needed their father by their side.
It can be said that the three years when my husband went to the beach, it was also the time when I was pregnant, gave birth, and took care of my challenging baby. Looking back, without that trade-off, we wouldn't be where we are today. I am grateful that my efforts have paid off. My husband's return to shore means that his income is significantly reduced, and my family saves by increasing income and reducing spending. The couple's income is always accompanied by external payments, never just from salary. We all received additional jobs outside, after many years of working experience increased, so the salary also increased. Our total income is stable, we have been able to buy an old car for easy travel and return to our hometown. After paying off the old debt, the couple sold the apartment they were living in to move to a new, larger and larger apartment.
>> My wife and I are happy without having children
Looking back after five years of trying, we are satisfied with what we have and plan to have a second baby, accumulate to buy a second property. There is a saying: "Going from zero to number one is the hardest because it doesn't multiply much to zero, but when it goes to one, it will grow very quickly because the number of one multiplied by any number will be the same number". The lesson I learned is:
One: If you can't buy a house in the inner city, you can move to the suburbs, the suburbs are now developed, there are many companies and industrial zones, there is no shortage of job opportunities. If you can't buy land, buy an apartment, if you can't build a new house, buy an old house... Like my house, I bought an old apartment, but I'm quite satisfied because the previous owner has repainted the whole house and repaired the interior. , almost just to stay.
Two: The spending lesson is always to increase income and decrease spending. There are many ways to increase non-wage income such as: overtime, overtime, getting an outside job, selling outside, doing a second job... Reducing spending is reducing toy purchases, Clothes for children, cosmetics, things for parents to buy only enough to use, food also buy a variety but just enough or not too much, limit coffee, milk tea, restaurants...
Three: Probably the most important thing: "Consent to husband and wife" and do not compare with others. Always try and trust each other will overcome all difficulties.
There are many people who will say, my family is lucky because my husband's job is on the train, so I have the opportunity to earn a high income. Yes, it was my wife's luck. In the most difficult circumstances, we have a job to increase income, but it is also a job that has a lot of trade-offs. When returning home, my husband also had to start from scratch with a job on the shore not in the right field.
